I'll try and keep this short and sweet.
I have been unhappy for about a year. My DP started touching me when I was asleep and its been a bit of a trigger for me. I was molested as a child but never told anyone. It only happened once and I can barely remember it now but it still happened.
Anyway since I noticed what he's been doing its like I've been building up resentment for every little thing he does wrong. It eventually got to the point the other day where I snapped and confronted him on what he's been doing to me.
I hadn't confronted him before because I was scared to lose him but this time it just all came out like verbal diarrhoea. He cried, I cried. I told him that I don't trust him and that I feel like he violated me.
He didn't have any excuses, just that he's really sorry and never meant to hurt me.
We've broken up and hes moved out. But I'm so heartbroken. I thought he was the one.
Is it normal to feel massive amounts of regret and guilt for ending things without giving him a chance to make things better?
He offered to go see a dr, or for us to go on holiday etc.
Part of me thinks that it's a weak attempt at keeping me, but the other part thinks he's really serious and it could work.
He keeps asking for my forgiveness but I've been trying to forgive him and move on in secret and can't do it. Would it be different now that he knows what the problem is?
Please can someone help me?
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I've ended things but now having regrets...?
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CheerfulCherry · 24/05/2017 17:28
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