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Relationship confusion...

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user1495463844 · 22/05/2017 15:43

Hiya. I will keep brief, basically I have been feeling for a long time that there is just something 'not right' about my relationship with my older boyfriend. Theres a big age gap between us, but i have been thinking hes been cheating on me for ages now. I have done snooping and theres nothing ive found really and im just left confused. Its not paranoia its more a gut instinct that something is just wrong and im finding it so hard to explain. Our sex waxes and wanes, I will say I make alot of effort, toys new underwear etc go all out but still it is most def not as much as it used to be and at times he wont even let me touch or kiss him and becomes insenced at the notion of sex (not every time but pretty much). He puts me down and generally seems 'disinterested' Im in my 20s and i consider myself to be well kept, i havent let myself go expect for a little weight due to contracpetion - im really not talking alot and frequently am told im attractive by others (not being conceted just explaining). Its just the fact that he really doesnt seem to be interested, when we do have sex sometimes it is good but his behaviour towards me has changed so much and he seems to find everything i do annoying these days, i cant do anything right and i love him so much, i know some people will say if some of the sex we have is so good why am i complaining or even thinking hes cheating its just his behaviour is not right at all. He seems angry, frustrated angry at me: the world. And he really for the most part never initates the sex its always me and he is usually so angry when i do initate, like its the worst thing i could have ever suggested. It makes no sense, and sometimes yes he is fliriting with other women and its so crushing to see it. I hope after reading this someone can give advice because i am soo confused and its affecting me so much. Thanks all.

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Adora10 · 22/05/2017 15:48

He sounds awful OP, he punishes you for showing affection and then gets angry at the thought of love making.

I honestly have no idea how you can even like this person never mind love him; he's not showing you an ounce of respect or love.

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LesisMiserable · 22/05/2017 16:03

He's pushing you away purposely but you're staying stubbornly put. Finish it and find someone who thinks you're an absolute goddess.

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Happybunny19 · 22/05/2017 16:15

I'm sorry to be blunt but he just doesn't sound interested in you any more. You haven't mentioned if you have DVD or are living together, but I would look at finishing with him, as I suspect he's simply too cowardly to finish it and is manipulating the situation so you do the dirty work. You haven't given any reason to like him, let alone love him. Be single for a while, reconnect with girlfriends and build yourself a life without a boyfriend, then when you're ready for romance again, set your sights a lot higher. It's perfectly acceptable to have high standards.

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Happybunny19 · 22/05/2017 16:16

DCs not DVD?

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SweetLuck · 22/05/2017 16:50

Does it really matter if he's cheating... he's treating you like shit either way.

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user1495463844 · 22/05/2017 16:52

Im just wondering why he pushing me away purposley? Thanks for everyones replys

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user1495463844 · 22/05/2017 16:54

The weird thing is if he really wanted to end it he wouldve done, each time weve argued he has said he doesnt want to break up and hes always making future plans for us - i just dont know whats going on

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user1495463844 · 22/05/2017 16:58

The weird thing is if he really wanted to end it he wouldve done, each time weve argued he has said he doesnt want to break up and hes always making future plans for us - i just dont know whats going on

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Adora10 · 22/05/2017 17:14

OP, in the kindest possible way the man actually has nothing but contempt for you, read back your OP; why would he end it, he has you to take all his crap out on and you stay and take it.

Sorry but when a man rejects you like that, why do you stick around, it just be soul destroying.

Have you no self worth?

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user1495463844 · 22/05/2017 20:43

You could well be right Adora10

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Aquamarine1029 · 22/05/2017 21:15

Why does it matter if or why he is pushing you away? This relationship is horrible and all you should be concerned with is how quickly you can get him out of your life. Dump and run.

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