Without going on too much, we were together nearly 10 years, 2 children.
History of emotional abuse, jealousy and one incidence of violence. I eventually got the courage to leave when he would stop paying our household bills to fund nights out and regularly not come home after nights drinking (our baby was newborn).
We have been co-parenting reasonably well up until now but I fear this was mainly due to him believing we would eventually get back together, this has been made clear to him now that we have no chance of this happening. Since then I have had late night phone calls, messages, emails telling me how depressed he is, life isnt worth living etc.
Yesterday he text me saying he was on a bridge and wanted to jump, left me a voicemail saying he loves us and hes sorry. I called his dad to get in contact with him (and didnt engage with him directly).
He would be due to see the children over this weekend, I dont want to see him and didnt want to stop the children seeing him but I am worried about him having the children given his mental state. His parents are away this weekend so cant 'keep an eye' please help. Should I withhold contact?? Im worried he could use the children to hurt me, i.e. not bringing them home or that he will just be neglectful given his low moods.
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Emotionally unstable ex - access to our children..
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CookingMamama · 19/05/2017 22:25
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