I am fed up of my partner constantly messaging women from his work. I had our baby 12 days ago and throughout labour and pretty much any time I look at him, he is on his phone either looking at random people on facebook or messaging these women from his work. He is 36 and the women (2 of them) are about 22. The messages to one are her asking for interview advice, the context of them isn't flirty or anything but I feel like he is flattered by her asking for advice. There is literally pages upon pages of messages. None of which even ask how me and the baby are. The other women who is a friend of his, we have argued about in the past. They message each other a lot- the messages are apparently jokey, comments(from her) like 'I love you so much, you are my best friend at work. Miss you so much...can't wait to see you back at work, we need to go for lunch together'. His replies aren't as flirty but still have loads of xxx's on the end and says 'miss you too' etc.
Apparently I am unreasonable to be annoyed by this... as he would 'never cheat and nothing going on, it is just how she talks' so I don't need to be jealous! I am not jealous, I am fucking angry that while I am sat feeding our baby, rocking, changing etc he is sat with his phone in hand getting thrills from the fact younger women are giving him the time of day. As an aside, I am doing a lot more with the baby than he is, I lost a lot of blood at the birth, have stitches which are sore and although I feel like I am coping well I feel like I am getting no support from him. I am still doing all the washing, cleaning etc as well and most of the night feeds. I just feel how he appears to others is so much more important to him than how he appears to me. He spends ages on facebook looking at how many likes and comments he has and ages replying to them. I find it all so pathetic. I am starting to resent him.
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endoftether12 · 17/05/2017 11:03
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