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Fancying my DS's tennis coach

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HollieCB · 20/04/2017 16:49

You wouldn't t believe that I'm 30 as I feel like a school girl.

I fancy my sons tennis teacher and from messaging him regarding tennis I've seen that he's single on facebook.

I saw him out once and he did compliment me by saying he wasn't sure why I was single as I'm pretty, but I responded that he should go to specsavers.

I can't make things awkward as I have to see him every week but I keep thinking what if I'd have responded differently?

How can I go about sorting this situation? I don't really want to make a move as if he rejects me I'll have to see him often and it'll be weird for both of us.

I'm out of practice as I've been completely single for 6 years.

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originalbiglymavis · 20/04/2017 16:52

Oh dear no! I find kids teachers can be lovely and charming - have a nice patter with the parents - but that doesn't make them an option.

Too awkward! Unless he's a rubbish coach.

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HollieCB · 20/04/2017 16:59

He's a really good coach. I guess he'll have to stay as a fantasy. He certainly cheers up my Thursday evenings!

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cheapskatemum · 20/04/2017 17:52

Suggest to your DS that he takes up cricket.

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Plentyoffishnets · 20/04/2017 19:17

I went there with one of my children's sports coaches!! The sport related texts went from being the round Robin, to chatty, to flirty, to going on a few dates. Unfortunately he turned out to be a game player despite telling me initially that he wanted a relationship!
Things haven't been awkward as such, but I always feel I need to look my best at practice and matches!! Not easy early on Saturday mornings! And was also harder to get over due to seeing him twice a week. And there was no bad ending just an of offer on a fwb in the end rather than relationship which I may take him up on!
So long as you are both consenting adults I can't see the problem. None of the other parents are aware at all of our fling and think we manage to style it out!!!

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HollieCB · 20/04/2017 20:08

Tbf I make way more of an effort for tennis than I do for his swimming or rugby sessions. He's even flirty with me in the past when we've been the last to leave, it's just having the confidence to try and move it on from tennis to other things.

When I saw him out we chatted for like half an hour and he was flirting looking back but I just thought he was being friendly and I'm awkward when it comes to guys I like.

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Plentyoffishnets · 20/04/2017 20:21

I reckon carry on with the flirting and see where it ends up, sounds very promising!

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toffeeboffin · 20/04/2017 20:23

Yes, do carry on with the flirting please.

And update regularly

just don't ask to hold his balls

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UpYerGansey · 20/04/2017 20:34

New balls please!

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HollieCB · 20/04/2017 20:40

Think I've used the new balls line, apparently his are fine. It's the tight shorts and lunges to warm up that really does it. Plus he genuinely seems to like the kids.

In messages he only talks about tennis though and I don't know how to move it on without seeming weird. Could just do with a mate telling him I like him, like when I was a teenager. Didn't think there would be all this anguish at 30.