I'm going to keep this as brief as I can. Neither DH nor I had particularly desirable childhoods. My parents - alcoholism, and abuse his - messy divorce, alcoholism. To be clear, they weren't all horrendous and many people have far worse.
But I have serious issues with DH's mum. She had 3 more children when he was 14 - he had to share his room with 3 kids under a year old. He began a very inappropriate relationship and basically moved out from the age of 16. When we first got together he cried in my arms and told me he felt he 'didn't have a home'.
Lots since then of examples where she just doesn't seem to treat him the same. 21st birthday - mother did nothing for him(we were staying with her). One of the younger kids gets everything he wants - he got to choose the restaurant for DH's 21st (kid was 6!!!). He is spoilt and his behaviour is very poor (he is 16 now).I think she believes that DH is OK cos he has turned out ok and never asks for anything but it breaks my heart that she is so oblivious. DH is a wonderful man - kind, polite and has made an enormous success of his life thus far. There is definite tension from his stepdad - lots of comments about DH being the 'favoured child'.
How do I get over it? I just know how I'm going to feel as the younger siblings grow up, given everything that DH never had. The resentment and tension eat away at me.
Sorry. I don't think I'm making much sense. Just needed someone to talk to.
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It's eating away at me. What can I do?
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AyeAyeFishyPie · 19/04/2017 22:15
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