My DH has been drinking a lot more than he used to for the last couple of years. I have tried everything I can think of to get him to cut down / accept it is a problem. I think he is using it to manage his work stress - he is self employed and works v hard. He is v tall and big build and so can easily drink more than me. It's a problem because it changes his mood. It makes him really grumpy with me and the kids (teenagers) and sometimes he gets really bad and gets depressed - then he is unbearable. An angry, aggressive depressive rather than a quiet withdrawn one. However, he has not been depressed for over a year. He regularly drinks a bottle of wine a night, every night. Sometimes he starts off with a V&T or two. Or he might finish off with whisky. Recently I have noticed our bedroom smells of booze in the night and the following morning and he smells of drink also the next day, which I have told him. I have tried talking to him about his health, about our relationship and the impact on the family - he gets angry and accuses me of nagging and pushes me away. I then don't bring it up again for ages. Then I lose it and start screaming my head off about it when we have a row. I think he thinks he is superhuman and that the usual 'rules' don't apply to him. I have wondered about dobbing him in to our GP. His work seems unaffected and he is never physically sick from drinking too much and doesn't seem to get hangovers. We have had successful couples counselling in the past for unrelated things and it was hugely helpful but the counsellor retired - we tried another but she was rubbish and we have not been for ages. A close friend of mine thinks he is just a functioning heavy drinker and that I should just accept it. I think other people might call him an alcoholic and would take much harder line. I don't know what to do. Anyone had similar experience or got any thoughts?
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