And were you able to get over it?
I have been married for nearly ten years and my husband was emotionally abusive for about 5 of those years at the beginning. It was extremely intense when i was pregnant with the kids and when they were babies. It got too much and i couldn't take anymore. I told him i wanted to leave but he said he'd change and he has. Massively.
All the EA behaviours have gone including the financial abuse too. Things have really improved and I'm alot happier and we have become stronger as a couple.
But. And it's a big but, i cant help thinking of the past. He treated me horrifically and just thinking about it brings me to tears even though it's been 5 years. I just can't seem to forget and forgive. It's making me go round in circles. I feel i have no self respect by staying with him and don't know what to do. I still can't trust him not to hurt me and my self esteem was non existent and it's taking me a very long time to get it to where i am now but i still have alot of work to do.
Has anybody else been in a similar situation?! How did you let go of the past?
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