DD and I are planning a holiday to London to visit dear, old friends. We have been friends for decades, and our children spent many days together from a very young age to mid-primary school. We moved out of the country, but visit for an extended period every few years.
DD is especially close to the middle child - they were best friends when we lived in London. When we last visited, it was clear that dd and this girl were having different life experiences. The London girl was living a much 'faster' life - more independent, socially advanced, interested in boys, starting to drink a bit, etc. Now, a few years later, social media photo show her with cigarettes, cans of lager, wearing revealing clothes, etc.
DD has had a very different path. She is studious, sure of herself with girls but completely inexperienced with boys, and doesn't drink / smoke (and to date, isn't interested). I think her London friend is quite sophisticated and socially advanced, while dd is a bit innocent and naive.
I am a little nervous about how it will go between the girls, and think dd might find herself in some unfamiliar and perhaps uncomfortable situations.
Any suggestions about how I can prepare dd? I'm hoping the girls can find common ground and enjoy each other. I'm not judging the London friend at all, but if the girls go out together or spend time with the London girl's friends, I think it is likely dd will find herself in some situations that she is unprepared for. I think dd will be crushed if her long-standing friendship with this girl is strained by their differences, as she thinks of her friend almost as a sister.
Any advice much appreciated.
Please or to access all these features
Please
or
to access all these features
Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody
Relationships
Tricky Situation on the horizon for dd (age 16)
14 replies
Earlybird · 04/04/2017 21:06
OP posts:
Please create an account
To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.