My husbands never really been..well how do I explain? Very aware of what he says and does sometimes. Hes been coddled by his mom all his life. To the point where he would would go to work with two lots of sandwhiches..one from home,one from his mom. Ive been with him a long time and thats changed recently. Its nice because his mom gets her little chance at freedom from picking up him all the time and he gets a chance to be independent. Anyway i digress.
Hubby has always been known for stupid things he says and does that hes totally unaware of. I could do the 'woman thing' and bring up everything over the past 10 years but it would sound awful and a little outa context.
Hes always been unconfident and uncomfortable with who he is, think he was told his amazing all his young life and reached adult hood and realised that people do tend to tell you the harsh truth about your failings. Hes found that reality hard.
Hes recently lost 5 stone become a fitness obsessed person and seems to have become the worst. Hes obsessed with running, exercising and reads constantly about it. He spends miney we di t have on suppliments and stuff for weight loss etc. Hes not cheating as he just doesnt have time. I know everyone says that but i can account for every minute as we both work hard to create a good home for our children. Ive recently become pregnant with number 5. Hes happy just not like I am about it. Im mindlessley happy.
Hes just less aware of what a idiot he is when he says stuff. Mothers day he didnt get me a card off our young children, he said he can get me a present we just need to pick it up and pay for it and order it. So its in the shop. (So nothing then) he said our eldest is old enough to sort it. She 17 and autistic but did and amazing job but why should she take the weight if her other foyr siblings when its usually my hubbys duty as its mine fathers day.
He came home from work ( ive been working from home due to pregnancy being high risk) he tells me hes been looking into a break away for me and him (no kids) nice huh? I get all excited and explain that im so happy we needed this for a while.....THEN he says 'its a two day run that he will do so I wont see him but actually hes asked his mother to sit with me while its happening' dejected and depleted I nod and walk away. Hes totally oblivious and I dont want to argue or talk about it because he becomes really defensive when I ask him to do something with me and miss out on his runnning. Tbing is he wouldn't just soend money on me and him going for a romantic break but would on this....advise?
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Lilith81 · 04/04/2017 20:22
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