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IS it enough just to be loved?

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ThespianTendencies · 30/03/2017 23:22

In brief, I am in a relationship (I have a HUGE backstory) but just bashing this out before bed....with a lovely man who adores me - I mean he really loves me. When we got together it was fabulous, probably the most respectfully I have been treated and I have loved him very much. But.....we live miles from one another and it is not sustainable. , I have young children and extended family - he does not, I mean none. My feelings have dwindled and I think I am just hanging on because there is no good reason not to, rather than for love. The attraction - which was tenuous for me anyway - is no longer there and I feel such a bitch but I cannot help it. Should I keep my involvement because I am loved? Or bow out? He has stated clearly that if we every were to finish he would give up on relationship for good. He really is the most lovely human but we differ in so many ways and, for me at least, it is become so glaringly obvious. What to do MNetters?

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springydaffs · 30/03/2017 23:55

What he chooses to do is his business, not yours. Your business is to do what's right for you.

You don't owe him because he is mad for you.

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