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Heart Broken

(10 Posts)
Sammymickyvicky Thu 30-Mar-17 21:41:56

On Monday my husband of 9 years (12 years together) walked out and left me and our 3 children. His reasons keep changing, one minute he needs space, next its my weight and the way i treat him, today he just wants a single life again, I'm so confused and I just don't no what to do or think anymore. He said his been struggling for weeks with all this saying he feels trapped and no longer loves me but his not given me a chance to help change things, he promised me last night he would give it a few weeks, but then tonight his changed his mind saying he just said it to please me. I'm broken I'm scared off what i'll do, I have a pass of self harm and depression. Sorry for the long post I just don't no what to do anymore

TheoriginalLEM Thu 30-Mar-17 21:48:04

I am sorry this has happened to you flowers

How dare he blame you. I suppose he is perfect hmm

It nay be that your depression has been triggered by him so whilst this is shit now, you may well feel so much better in the long term. If you feel at risk of hurting yourself then be proactive in getting some support /counselling in place to help you through.

Try and find some anger

Bones2017 Thu 30-Mar-17 22:29:12

Agh the blame game. Classic script behaviour. How long have things been tense op? Any gut feelings you've had?? Expand lovely. X

Neverknowing Thu 30-Mar-17 22:30:57

This isn't your fault. If he's blaming you he sounds like a dick and I think you're probably better off without him. I wouldn't try to get him back!
You'll feel better soon and you remember how much of a shit he was and how much happier you can be.

Wishiwasmoiradingle2017 Thu 30-Mar-17 22:31:31

What a shit. . Sorry op but won't be long til ow is a likely reason. .

Huskylover1 Thu 30-Mar-17 22:36:29

Why are you giving him any power? Ok, let's say you have put on weight. THOUSANDS of men out there who LOVE curvy women. So, fuck him! Take control here. Tell him to fuck off. You are fabulous. Don't let anyone say otherwise

Sammymickyvicky Thu 30-Mar-17 22:41:47

Thank you, my gut says his cheating, his changed all passwords to facebook and his email, I'm pissing him off more asking him all the time but i just want to know. I so wanna take control but right now i just want him back

SandyY2K Thu 30-Mar-17 22:45:09

So what plans is he making to see his children?

I suggest you stop contact with him except child related matters and focus on your children as best you can. They need one reliable parent.

Graphista Thu 30-Mar-17 22:48:42

My money on ow, that was just from the op!

You WILL get through this I promise!

Meanwhile, take care of you (see GP get as much support as possible with any mh issues) and dc, get finances in order and protect yourself on that score.

Sorry you're going through this flowers

Bones2017 Thu 30-Mar-17 22:51:27

Definitely an OW. Or the thought of one. Maybe he has someone who he wants to experience before he decides. It's classic and heartbreaking. I'm 4 months in dDay. Came out of the blue. Or so I thought. But now looking back, there were signs. See my thread. Husband left and I have no closure. I got my closure.
I'm sorry. It's a rocky road ahead op. It's so very hard. Men are just effing weak. X

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