I'm probably overthinking this but I just don't know.
My OH went on a stag do last month to an eastern eurpean country. I said before he went he could go to a strip club if everyone went but no touching, being touched, private dances.
He came home and when I asked if he went he said no, some of the boys went but it was £50 for a dance, I tried to keep it lighthearted and said why do you care how much for a dance when you weren't getting one and he laught and said I didn't mean it like that, the beer was expensive.
Later I was quizzing him and he told me 4 of the boys went to a brothel- 3 have girlfriends and one has a young child. I can't stop thinking about his partner- I don't know her but will be meeting her at the wedding. My oh told me he didn't go and said 'asif I'd do that' and when I said it was pathetic they went he said ' maybe she does things their misses won't do'.
I asked him if he'd ever done that and he said he would have when he was in prague (at 18, long before us) as the girls were 'model material', but that he didn't have enough money. He said that at this current stag do one of the boys said 'i'll pay for you if I can watch' (as a joke but makes me think my oh's reason for not going was that he couldn't afford it).
Now I can't get out of my head did he do it? The other girl obviously has no idea. When I said again last night (I made it a joke about what happened on the stag do) he said nothing happened on the stag do, in a way which made alarm bells ring for me.
Also one of the boys (the one with the child) was calling him through messenger at the weekend and I had a sneaky look (sorry) when he was in the shower and every conversation with that boy has been delected.
What do you think? One side says he's been too honest, told me about the brothel etc, but another part of me thinks that people find it hard to lie and tell half truths, is that what he's doing?
I hate the fact he could be thinking about someone else, or comparing me to someone who is 'model material' or that he didn't do it but only because it was too expensive.
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did he visit a brothel?
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Kitkat19 · 20/03/2017 13:02
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