Coping with a separation 2 years later.

[Nelly81]

First post .. Not really sure how this works , but here goes. .So I left my husband after a year of marriage in 2014 after he cheated on me. We had been together 10 years have 2 children. He cheated not long after our wedding, I tried to stay and work it out but in the end I felt that I couldn't.
I left him with the view we would work things out after time apart and he agreed, shortly after I left , well 8 weeks after a girl we worked with said she was 8 weeks pregnant to him 😥, to cut a long story short... he got with this girl and 9 months later it turned out that the baby wasn't his. They split for a year and he was with many other girls in this time, but he has since got back with the girl who said she was pregnant to him, I can't understand why he would want anything to do with a Girl who lied about being pregnant to him over his wife and our family.
I don't know what it is but I am really struggling to move on this far down the line. Every time I see him my heart totally breaks. I am heartbroken and feel like I've fallen so far back after trying to move on the past 2 years,
It's all just getting on top of me and I really don't know how to get over it all 😪 xx

[TheNaze73]

You need to stop obsessing about his love life. How do you know so much? Are you cyber stalking him?
He cheated on you, don't forget that & you deserve better. Don't get hung up on this loser

[Nelly81]

I know so much because we live in the same area, socialise with the same group of friends. I have blocked him on all social media platforms so that I don't see anything of him and his life.

[coffeeandchocolate4]

To help you move on (10 years together is a long time and you don't just switch off your emotions, regardless if he cheated, it's not that easy), maybe try counselling to just focus on you and your happiness.

[Nelly81]

Thank you coffeeandchocolate4, I started seeing a councillor last Tuesday so hoping that will help. I go through times of feeling over it then within days I feel right back to square one x

[Figureitout1]

Can't offer much advice except to say I am in the same situation and I really feel for you - it's absolutely horrible. Mine has only just started seeing someone else and even though I thought I was over it I am in absolute pieces - I think a part of me thought we would get back together 😔

I just keep reminding myself that he's a loser anyway and that I will find someone who will treat me better.
💐💐💐 for you

[Nelly81]

Aww I'm so sorry to hear that. I try and remind myself also of how much a loser he is but the heart and the head like to mess all that up and cause a lot of hurt and confusion. although we know what really is for the best it's much harder to see clearly when there's emotions involved and I find that I can't remember the bad days, and all the good ones are what stay in my mind,
Hugs to you and if u want to chat feel free to message me 😘 Xx