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Would you get a loan to afford a shit hot lawyer to divorce?

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ferriswheel · 15/03/2017 21:17

Just that. Any advice? Im desperate.

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Blinkyblink · 15/03/2017 21:20

Absolutely
They will do on half the time what a crap one will do.
They will not waste time waffling on in meetings and emails with you (every minute is charged for)
And ultimately they will secure the best deal for you. Not just for tomorrow but in twenty years time.

Of course if you have hardly any assets between the two of you, don't bother.

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EyeStye · 15/03/2017 21:22

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oldfatandtired1 · 15/03/2017 21:23

I did, yes. I had to or he would have walked all over me and I'm so glad I did as I got a great settlement.

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Wishiwasmoiradingle2017 · 15/03/2017 21:23

It will be worth it for your mh in the long run.

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MilkTwoSugarsThanks · 15/03/2017 21:25

My solicitor got paid out of my settlement. He was great, absolutely wiped the floor with the tosser!

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childmaintenanceserviceinquiry · 15/03/2017 21:25

Best of luck on finding an SHL who delivers consistently in family courts. There is no independent process of review so it is extremely difficult to find independent assessment of ability and delivery. So one has to rely on recommendations. You may hire an extremely long qualified family lawyer who is excellent in certain areas but has no real expertise in others. Woebetide you if that is the area of expertise you need. It is pot luck. That's right - 10 of £1000s in pot luck. Unprofessional practice. #bitter,yes

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OhTheRoses · 15/03/2017 21:28

I'm married to a shit hot lawyer. So yes I would and the best divorce lawyer I can think of is married to my friendship group, not his! Although I'm not thinking of divorcing him.

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Giraffesaretootall · 15/03/2017 21:28

Just be careful not to get a 'lawyer' as to call yourself a 'lawyer' you don't need to be a qualified solicitor, you can just be a legal executive. They still charge £200/hr though!

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OhTheRoses · 15/03/2017 21:32

I don't think any "lawyer" worth their salt charges £200 ph. Top rate will start at double that. Depends what's at stake.

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Blinkyblink · 15/03/2017 21:35

You're thinking of London
I'm outskirts and £300 will get you a partner

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ferriswheel · 15/03/2017 21:39

I don't know what the assets are. And he keeps avoiding handing the accounts in. But he's desperate for me to sign my half over so it must be worth something? I'm divorcing him for emotional, mental and financial abuse. I'm so low. I have three pre school children. He's stopped giving me money. I need to take him to court. I know he will have a shl.

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OhTheRoses · 15/03/2017 21:47

You may not know what the assets are but can you hazard a guess? 1/2 mill to a mill probably not worth it. If the differential is more than a mill then yes the equivalent of £10k a day in court is more than worth it.

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OhBlissOhJoy · 15/03/2017 22:08

My SHL talks too much and repeats himself and at £220 an hour it really grates. And I've sorted out my own financial settlement which is what I thought I qas paying him to fight for. Came very highly recommended though Hmm

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Lostin3dspace · 15/03/2017 22:35

If yours is financially abusive, you definitely need a SHL. Possibly a forensic accountant as well.

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RedastheRose · 15/03/2017 22:54

Yes get a SHL however you can, sometimes they will wait to be paid from settlement. Do not sign anything he is trying to force your hand. If he's pushing you it's worth the fight, he obviously knows that!

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Blinkyblink · 16/03/2017 10:53

What I did was get a good lawyer, and then for the drudge work use his assistant at a more bearable rate of £170.

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