My partner has depression and anxiety and it's destroying our relationship.
We've been together nearly two years but don't live together or have children together (we are both in our 40's). He has a stressful job and a young child he has access to every other weekend and once he's given all his time and energy to them he never has time for me. I feel like I'm right at the bottom of his priorities. I basically feel like I only fit into his life when his mood allows it. He is on antidepressants and sleeping meds so I never seen him in the week as he's always too exhausted (he's got the time and energy to go to the gym twice a week). At the most we get to spend two days/evenings a month together which in my eyes is not a relationship (we live 1/2 hr apart by the way) and even then I come home feeling unloved, pushed away and like he doesn't care.
When we met he made me aware of his anxiety and depression and the fact he'd had a traumatic childhood in a family who didn't show any affection but I adored him and was confident that I could break down this barriers but it just hasn't happened.
He tells me that even though he finds it hard to show affection he does love me but it's not enough for me. In the time we have been together he has only once complimented me on my appearance and never makes the first move to hug and kiss (unless he's in the mood for sex). If I kiss him he acts all uncomfortable and never makes eye contact. We are just so opposite as I'm a really affectionate person so this is destroying my self esteem and I'm fed up with feeling unwanted. I've tried so hard to support him and make allowances for his depression and anxiety but I've had enough now. I deserve so much more but how do I walk away from him when I love him so much and I know none of this is his fault 😢
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Jackeve · 12/03/2017 08:26
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