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maturebizy · 10/03/2017 12:01

A long time ago I posted on here when my husband left me....he said he was depressed and there was nobody else...you told me about the script...and you were right.....he was having an affair with someone from work....I completely cracked up and had the most awful time. He has been around this morning for me to sign the last of the divorce papers so he can marry her and I feel wretched

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Chocolatecake12 · 10/03/2017 12:05

That sounds like you have been through a horrid time but believe me you are better off without him.
Try to think of the positive things you can now do and think of this part of your life as a new chapter, a fresh start - a new adventure awaits you!!
I'm not trying to say you shouldn't feel wretched though. Because it is very hard.
You are worth so much more. Flowers

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maturebizy · 10/03/2017 12:15

Thank you chocolate cake.that is very kind
.....the difficulty is that he made me happier than I've ever been

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Mittensonastring · 10/03/2017 12:19

I'm currently in the process of breaking up, my instigation and no third party but he has hurt me in other ways. It's just absolute shit isn't it but I think the fact he lied to you makes it a lot worse. Sending love from someone who has also spent most of this morning crying.

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maturebizy · 10/03/2017 13:04

Thank you mittens....it's totally shit. He is going to marry her..... I'm sending love back to you....xx

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Hermonie2016 · 10/03/2017 13:18

How long did you separate? I'm always cautious of those rushing to remarry as it feels like romance ahead of common sense.

I am coming out if a marriage and I can't imagine remarriage
2nd marriages have higher rates of failure for many valid reasons.

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HippoPottyMouth · 10/03/2017 13:24

Hi maturebizy. I think I am at the beginning of the same story. My husband "doesn't know what he wants"..
I'm sorry you're going through it. It really hurts doesn't it.

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bibbitybobbityyhat · 10/03/2017 13:28

I'm so sorry you've been through all that maturebizy Sad. It must be so hard for you. What a loser he sounds!

For you Cake Brew Flowers.

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hellsbellsmelons · 10/03/2017 13:31

It's a totally crap time and I'm sorry this has happened to you.
Give yourself time.
Time to grieve.
Time to cry.
Time to rage.
But you absolutely will come out the other side.
He did this to you and he'll do it to her.
Do you have DC together?

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Wishiwasmoiradingle2017 · 10/03/2017 13:33

Just remember when she becomes his wife a vacancy becomes available. . I very much doubt he will get a happy ever after.

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maturebizy · 10/03/2017 13:44

It will be his third marriage..I was his 2nd. We've been separated 2 years so it shouldn't hurt as much as it does.

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