And this feels weird too, sharing it, but I would really value some advice....
Last autumn DP and I split up. We'd been distant, unhappy, for some time and neither of us wanted our children to live through the long, protracted parental disputes of our own childhoods. He moved out to a flat nearby, our dc stayed with me, but he has seen them several times a week. We were civil, friendly even - it felt like the model breakup, even though we still have some weighty financial things to sort out. But then last week he told me that he's started seeing someone else, and my whole world collapsed. All the grief and anger came out and I shouted and cried, went off food, drank too much - basically did all the things that are fairly normal after a breakup, but that hadn't happened when he first moved out. Then, to further confuse everything, we started talking properly about all the emotions and things that had gone wrong between us, and suddenly we felt closer than we'd felt in years, and one thing led to another and we had sex..... Now I have no idea what to do. For my own sanity I feel like I shouldn't see him but of course that's not an option with the dc to consider. And I've gone from a place of being contented that we'd made the right decision, if lonely, to now feeling completely unsure about everything. Is this all because I don't want someone else to have him, but if so is that just because I'm hurt, or do I want him back? He's not a bad person or particularly sexual so I don't think at all that this is just a physical thing for him, but equally that could be the same with the 'other woman'. Has anyone experienced anything like this before? Any ideas, please?
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chickenstock · 09/03/2017 20:05
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