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JellyBean31 · 06/03/2017 10:36

2 1/2 years after we spilt up. A split that was my decision as a result of his EA behaviour...WTF???

The divorce is proceeding, we have the Nisi but were waiting to sort finances out before applying for the absolute. He remained in the family home and was supposed to be buying me out of my share, I had an offer via his solicitor and everything. But (according to my DS) he has been struggling to secure a lending provider.

Anyone else think that the timing of a suggestion of reconciliation is in anyway linked to finances as he sees it as the only way to avoid having to sell the house?? Or am I just super cynical?

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Happyinthehills · 06/03/2017 10:42

No way are you being cynical.

why would you change your decision of over two years ago?

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JellyBean31 · 06/03/2017 12:07

Exactly happy, and he knows that. Talk about a last ditch attempt to keep the house.

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SantinoRice · 06/03/2017 12:15

He must really like that house

Did you reply?

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GurneyGob · 06/03/2017 12:36

Could be the house. Could be the grass is not greener without you. Much nicer having a live in housekeeper! You are right to be cynical. Sounds like you have moved on with your life.

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WatchingFromTheWings · 06/03/2017 12:42

I'd say you were spot on!

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JellyBean31 · 06/03/2017 14:26

satino I replied to say I was very happy with my life now and just want the divorce to continue to move forward.

He built the house, he loves it and I am gutted for him he has to sell it, but if he hadn't been such a bastard then he wouldn't be in this position. If I win the rollover on Wednesday, he can have the house, it's not about just getting money off him, it's about being in a position to move forward with my life and at the moment I'm not.

The DC are grown up now, but he says to the "none of this was my decision" I just tell them that no, it wasn't but I gave him chance after chance so he certainly had the power to stop it happening but didn't!