Posting for a friend and to check that others would give the same advice that I have given her.
Basically, my friend has been living with her partner for 6 years and there have been a few incidents during that time that have caused her to feel suspicious. Yesterday, she came across some photos of a naked woman on his computer. She was upset but intially thought that they were just photos he had downloaded from the internet. I suggested that she talked to him to tell him how this made her feel, she did and he told her that they were photographs of a woman he knows! He said she was just a friend who lived abroad and that he had saved them because he was 'amazed at her bravery at having herself photographed'! 
but she remembered that he told her he'd had a fling with this woman years ago. I have told her this is definitely not acceptable and that she needs to have a very serious talk to him. I'm not overreacting am I?
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WeeMcBeastie · 25/02/2017 12:55
I agree, my tolerance for any of this type of shit is zero too. This isn't the first incident of this nature either
Haha! I've just sent her a photo of a man with a massive cock to cheer her up and told her to have this as her screensaver. If he questions her then she can say that she admires his bravery at showing something that big off on the internet. 
She thinks she should leave but it's difficult at the moment. 
Is this my ex? He's treating her like an idiot.
My ex used to explain saving pornographic images as "anatomy reference" as he was doing an art degree.
I admire his bravery trying such a bullshit excuse
Anatomy reference?
You definitely have to admire their bravery at coming up with these ridiculous excuses!
My friend is very different in temperament to me, I am much more fiery and would be tellIing him exactly what I thought of his bullshiy excuse and have had his bags packed by now but she's more the silent treatment type. She's cleaning to stay out of his way.
I totally agree with KungFuPanda. With porn it's a purely physical act but having photos of someone who is actually known to the man in real life would be a deal breaker for me. In my view emotional connections are far more of a threat than physical attraction. This is a possibility where a former partner is involved. I am 41, could do with losing a few pounds and have had 2 kids and a hysterectomy - my body will never compare to a young porn star and I won't beat myself up about that. Similarly, most guys my age won't compare favourably to Tom Hardy! If a partner was lusting after someone they knew in real life then this would be far more worrying and damaging to a relationship than a fantasy figure they're not likely to meet. That's just my view though. 
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