Hi all, have NC for this as possibly identifying.
Exp and I split up 3 years ago. All very amicable for the first 3/4 months. Regular maintenance and regular contact visits with the DC. This changed when he met a new partner and lost his job. Obviously he could no longer afford maintenance but contact stopped as well. Ex gets a new job and pays maintenance for 4 weeks and sees the children twice in that time. Splits from new gf gets a new place. Still contact via text but no mention of seeing the dc.
13 months down the line he wants to see the dc so comes and picks them up (lives 150 miles away but drives and has a car) has them down for a few days and all is well, has really missed them etc and wants to see them more often. I agree as I would never stop them seeing their father! That was 6 months ago and he has made no effort to see them in that time. Never phones to speak to them and never even phoned or text at xmas or new year!
Last Saturday night was coming home on the train with my dd and she gets a text asking if she would "do the honour of being his bridesmaid" Now we knew he was seeing someone but only for a couple of months so this was a shock to her. After we discussed it she said she didn't really want to for various reasons but was too scared to tell her dad. So I did. I also said I was saying no as well as he's seen them three times since January 2015 and had no relationship with them. My son found out in Facebook!
Since then he has phoned both children trying to talk them into to attending the wedding etc even though he never phones them any other time!
I suppose I'm asking WIBU so say no way are they going unless things make a drastic change between now and the wedding (which is nearly two years away anyway) me and the kids plod along fine then he pops up promising the earth and never follows through. I just wish it was all or nothing
Dd is 11 And ds is 14
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crumpetsandcoffee · 25/02/2017 10:31
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