We were sitting on the sofa yesterday and out of the blue my H blurted out something like: "My nose is growing larger, look like a Pinocchio". He said "my nose" supposedly referring to himself but he has a small to average nose, mine is the one that's big and ugly, so I immediately knew that remark was meant for me.
What's even worse, he often makes a point of telling me that I am beautiful, that he would never change anything about me, etc. Hence my surprise about the comment. By the time I could say anything my DS had approached having overheard us, and asked who has a larger nose, my H responded "Clearly your mum", then mumbled "I don't really notice it anymore". This ended the conversation but I felt angry at H, for being pointlessly mean and also for being untruthful in giving me empty compliments every day (completely unprompted!), when in fact he doesn't like my appearance at all.
WWYD - confront him even though the moment's already gone, pretend that nothing's been said? I am actually considering the option of leaving as I struggle with other issues in our marriage, and don't need this additional nastiness.
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H being mean about my looks (nose)
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ImpetuousBride · 19/02/2017 05:51
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