N/c for this, don't want it linked to my other posts.
Separated from ex around 5 years ago, aDC who was a year at the time. We were together 15 years ish.
Long story short: I was desperately unhappy and exhausted, bad at communicating and handled this badly. Had a short EA, ex suspected and did lots of snooping but didn't find anything conclusive. I then ended things with ex. Then slept with EA guy. I was a shit, basically. Ex found out and was devastated and furious.
Fast forward to now. We co parentrelatively well, but I still get - at least weekly - texts about how I should make it better, feel more shame, put it right etc. That I need to think of something to make up for what I did.
Largely, I ignore them. If I engage it just goes on and on. If I try and explain or be open it gets thrown back in my face.
I suppose my question is whether I do have a responsibility to provide him with closure? I don't know how, he seems to think I need to come up with something.
I feel guilty, anxious and it is seriously affecting my sleep as he often texts late evening.
I don't know how to make it stop.
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