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Hope for leaving an emotionally abusive ex

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helpmeplease2045 Mon 13-Feb-17 12:22:30

Just wanted to update really.

I wrote on here in December all problems with my husband and I. Two young children also.

I decided, thanks in part to support on here, to leave him at the end of December and nearly two months later life is so so so much better.

It is so nice waking up in the morning and just getting on with our day. There is nobody shouting at me, telling me all the things I am doing wrong, bring ratty with me / negative / telling me and the kids all the reasons why we can't so the things we want.

I took them to the cinema and we had cereal for supper special treat as it was the weekend, no-one eye rolling, bitching, making a comment about dishes. We go to the park, to their clubs, to playdates or we sit up all snuggly on the coach and watch a movie. I've decided to take them away for a few nights in the February break spontaneously. We can swim, go to parks and for walks.

It's like a massive weight has been lifted off my shoulders. He has them two days a week when I work and I miss them but have used this time after work to clean, chill, take baths, watch tv etc and then give them my all on the other five days.

I don't know why I am writing this other than to say there can be real happiness and if you are in an emotionally abusive relationship then there is hope xx

xStefx Mon 13-Feb-17 12:27:51

Im glad you wrote this, there are a lot of woman here who are trying to muster the strength to leave their abusive partners. Reading this will surely be giving them some hope. Im so please that you are happy and a weight has been lifted. Thanks for the update OP xx

TheNaze73 Mon 13-Feb-17 12:30:30

Brilliant post OP & hopefully a nudge for a lot of people in bad situations.

pudding21 Mon 13-Feb-17 13:42:26

I literally left this weekend and although my emotions are up and down, I already feel the freedom you are explaining.

Well done smile

debbs77 Mon 13-Feb-17 13:42:54

A brilliant thread. It's very fulfilling isn't it, knowing you made the right decision xxxx

helpmeplease2045 Mon 13-Feb-17 15:01:48

Thank you everyone smile Happy you are already feeling better too pudding smile

RaisinsAndApple Mon 13-Feb-17 18:41:35

Well done helpme smile sounds amazing and so positive.

And pudding I remember you from another thread - doing a mini fist pump that you've done it! Hurrah!

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