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lovetobeatpeace Sat 11-Feb-17 23:36:52

so I'm 50. I look in the mirror & everything's heading south. I realise I'm not a young woman anymore but I feel a bit invisible. I don't look bad for my age but I feel sadness that my best looking years are behind me. Anyone else feeling like this? Anyone else considering having a bit of cosmetic surgery help? I don't mean to sound shallow but I don't look like me these days & it makes me sad 😞

lovetobeatpeace Sat 11-Feb-17 23:38:05

Ageing, that should have been..

Foureyesarebetterthantwo Sat 11-Feb-17 23:39:50

loveto this is going to sound a bit pedantic, but is this a Relationships issue? In other words is it starting to affect your relationship? If not, and you are interested in cosmetic surgery, then Style and Beauty might be a better place as there's lots of people there who have had varying degrees of intervention (the Crepey threads are about ageing). By all means carry on here if that suits you, I just wanted to point out there's some other places on MN where this is a hot topic!

BackforGood Sat 11-Feb-17 23:42:45

YOu have to work a LOT harder at keeping weight off and keeping fit as you age. Fact.
The choice is you accept that you are in your 50s and mature enough to realise your 'looks' are much more about how genuine your smile is, than how wobbly any bit of your body is, or you diet and exercise a lot.
Personally, I'm happy with what I've got, and go about enjoying life. Nothing wrong with exercise and eating well if you have the will power of course, but that really is the choice.
Putting yourself into surgery for vanity is beyond my comprehension.

TrippyMcTrapFace Sat 11-Feb-17 23:43:47

Agree that Style and Beauty would probably be much better, they give great advice about cosmetic surgery, invasive and non-invasive.
And yes, I sometimes feel fleetingly sad that my 'best looking years are behind me' but it's outweighed by other benefits of age!

lovetobeatpeace Sat 11-Feb-17 23:46:50

Four eyes,that's a good point. It could be either if I'm honest. I mostly frequent this board & yes, I do feel a bit invisible in my relationship. Post hysterectomy & not feeling desirable probably not helping, but if mumsnet hq feel this would be better on another board, then happy to have it moved.

Trustyourself2 Sun 12-Feb-17 00:02:35

I'm 50 and still can't believe I've reached this age. It does take some getting used to, especially if you received a lot of attention in your younger years.

I'm slowly coming to terms with the ageing process, even though it gets harder to look in the mirror, especially at the hairdressers(!), and witness the serious changes in body shape, texture, etc. But what can you do? I don't think I'll have cosmetic sugery or otherwise. The young ones of today will be our age one day, we've all been there. My way of looking at it is that, I've had my time in the limelight and now it's over. Never mind, life could be so much worse. I know a 43 year old woman who was admitted to a hospice today to help prepare herself for the end of her life, and a 50 year old woman with breast cancer, who's recently had a double mastectomy and the cancer has now spread to her liver. I'm not minimising what you're feeling, as I feel that way too, sometimes, but for me, knowing that some people won't see old age is enough to make me realise how bad things could be for me.

You must do what you want to. Get lots is advice before you embark on the cosmetic route. Good luck.

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