A year ago I went through a horrendous break up. My ex and I were together for a couple of years and we lived together. We also worked closely together in the same department at a small company.
At Christmas my ex cheated on me with another girl we worked with who was 10 years younger than me (I'm 28 she was 18). I guessed and we ended it. They then got together and I had to witness it all. He was denying that they were a couple and instead manipulating our colleagues into thinking I was crazy and bitter. I was in a terrible place and almost ended my life because of it.
After three months I moved into my own house and things started looking up a bit. I now have a new job, live in a different city and am trying to move on.
I dated a guy for 6 months or so last year too. It was supposed to be a rebound but I fell hard for him and am struggling to get over that.
I want to move on and date again but I feel like these two men totally define me. Not just in relationships but with friends and colleagues too. They were such major events in my life that they seem to always be talking points. I'm struggling to remember who I was before this. I've become a joke and the butt of stories. My way of publicly dealing with things is to make them into a joke and people therefore go along with this but inside I'm taking everything they say seriously.
I feel like I need a break from dating but also am lonely and at 28 time isn't on my side. It seems everyone I know apart from me manages to have a fulfilling and lasting relationship and mine just end in disaster.
I don't even know what advice I'm really looking for except I don't know how to make these break ups diminish. I'm not upset on a daily basis but they probably dominate 80% of my thoughts.
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Will my breakups always define me?
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chasingrainbows27 · 08/02/2017 21:05
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