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When life feels tough and you can't see the light

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Dineoutone Sat 04-Feb-17 19:44:06

What do you do to get through?

Currently suffering work problems, recent break up and money worries.

It all feels dreadful and I can't see the light.

BrownEyedLady Sat 04-Feb-17 20:01:01

When I had a cluster of horrible thing happen, the best thing I did was reach out to friends and family - some to talk it all out with, and others to take my mind off.

It sounds cliche and you might not feel like it, but walking in nature really does help. When I was at a crisis point, my friends and I chose a nice country walk, followed by dinner at my friend's house. It reminded me I'm not a loser/horrible person, whilst also having fun (we talked about other fun stuff too) and helped me face the trials ahead with new vigour.

Hope others can offer their experiences.

StrartinngfromHere Sat 04-Feb-17 21:15:56

Agree with talking to other people.

The other thing is that it seems insurmountable because you are lumping it all together as one huge mass. Little nibbles are the way to deal with this.

So try and do at least one thing every day to solve your problems. Update your CV and send it round as many agencies as possible. Update (or create) your Linkedin profile and add your CV to it. Look for groups in your industry or the one you'd like to be in and join them. Tell friends you are looking and ask them to tell other people.

Would a new job resolve your money problems? If not, could you look at a part time job? I'm a big fan of evening bar work, gets you out of the house and talking to people and keeps you too busy to think, but anything where you have or could acquire skills is good.

The break up bit is crap and takes time to get over (but you will!), but TBH a mixture of keeping busy and looking for any and every opportunity, however small, to give yourself a boost is the way forward. Look for things you enjoy - clean sheets, a bunch of flowers, a walk in the park, really taking the time to give yourself a proper mani-pedi - whatever works for you and do it lots. Now is your chance to live how you want to and spend your time learning about yourself and who you really are and what you believe in. Time well spent I promise!

Fireandflames666 Sat 04-Feb-17 22:26:30

I'm feeling the same. Stuck in a rut and run ragged with not enough support from my partner or family. Feel very alone at the moment.

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