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Arguing with DP

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Ellewoods1 Sat 28-Jan-17 15:18:48

DP and I generally don't argue. Thats not because our relationship is perfect, its because I swallow my hurt. Our relationship isnt great but we are trying to work on it after a pretty terrible year last year.

Today we have had an argument about him taking me for granted and not doing enough around the house. He absolutely refuses to discuss things with me and it rapidly escalates as he tells me he wont talk to me as I'm nagging and ignores me with his eyes closed. We have a 3 year old DS, DP will keep on saying stop arguing when DS is in the house. I don't want to argue in front of DS but I'm sick of my feelings being dismissed.

I'm sat in bed, DS has hone out with a babysitter (pre arranged) and our date night to the theatre in london is ruined.

HarmlessChap Sat 28-Jan-17 15:42:40

So you're working at a relationship which hasn't been great. Was the afternoon leading up to date night the best time to try to discuss how he takes you for granted?

You know your DP better than us but I suspect you knew how it would play out but now you can blame him for ruining your efforts to get the relationship back on track. Sorry if that sounds harsh but it seen like some a little self destructive behaviour to me.

ChuckSnowballs Sat 28-Jan-17 15:43:27

It doesn't sound like he is doing any working on it, to be honest.

AttilaTheMeerkat Sat 28-Jan-17 15:56:34

What do you get out of this relationship now?.

Why are you swallowing your hurt?. You should stop that as of right now because there is really nothing to rescue and or save here. He is not interested and you are really the only one trying to work on it. He really thinks nothing of you at all.

Why are you together at all now? You and your son would be better off apart from this individual. This is clearly not working and your son is seeing a terrible example of a relationship from his parents. Is this what you want your son to remember about his childhood, he is seeing and hearing a lot more than you care to realise.

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