Valentines! What do you buy for a man?

[newstartamiready]

So it's my first Valentine's Day with my bf but our 1 year anniversary is around the same time! What I want to know is what others buy for valentines? Also do I then buy a separate gift for the anniversary?

Or instead of spending lots of money on stuff (he's not very materialistic, I am more than him) has anyone got any idea for something lovely and thoughtful? For xmas I made him a card from moonpig which he loved but I can't do that again can I?

[Pocketsaviour]

I don't do anything more than a card, it's a load of commercialized rubbish. I always say "don't get me anything, and this is not a passive aggressive trick statement". In the past I've made a really nice dinner at home, as going out on the day just results in over priced conveyer belt meals.

Unless you can afford to take him to a Michelin star restaurant. If you can, do that

[Justmuddlingalong]

I have never in all my days celebrated the anniversary of our getting together. Am I in a minority here?

[mrsenasharples]

Nothing. Over commercialised and crap. Don't set the precedent and celebrate your anniversary nstead.

[AuntieStella]

Card only for St Valentines (though once I got him a book as there was a particularly apposite new release).

He sends flowers.

I didn't do anything about anniversaries until we had wedding ones. And it would often be a book for those too.

[mrsenasharples]

No, must admit, we haven't celebrated the anniversary of getting together. Although we did pretty much get married two years later. Great timing!

[TheNaze73]

I'm male & would never expect a gift. It's a load of bollocks

[ovenchips]

Agree with PocketSaviour.

I wouldn't buy him anything (unless there's something he particularly wanted).

A home cooked meal/ special evening in could be nice.

But deffo not a specific Valentine gift. Wouldn't waste my money.

[newstartamiready]

Ha ha so everyone hates Valentine's Day?

I wouldn't want to go out for valentines as it's cringey! But I still think it's nice to give him something or even do something nice for him!

[newstartamiready]

Thenaze - ha ha so you wouldn't expect a gift but would you get one for you partner?

[Mol1628]

We don't do valentines either. Not even cards. Probably the most unromantic time of year to go out for a meal as well, when everyone else is doing the same.

[Babyg1995]

I cook a nice meal at home and have a few drink's we always get gifts for each other I usually get him a card aftershave and some little things.

[Emboo19]

Me and my bf don't do cards for any occasion! I don't see the point of a card if you see the person. Valentines we usually mark the day somehow and he usually gets me something varies as to what, he's a very good gift buyer though. I don't buy for him. March 14th is for the guys, no?
Never celebrated our anniversary, we aren't married!

[TheNaze73]

OP, I would as its important to her. Taking her to Paris for the weekend. She respects my decision that it's not for me, so a trip to Versailles (my thing) & dinner in Le Cinq & a drink up the Eiffel Tower after (her thing) seemed like a good compromise

[newstartamiready]

Thenaze - that sounds much better than a gift

[AnitaPallenbergsKnees]

When we were first together it used to be card and meal out but as soon as we lived together /got married we have a nice meal at home and an early night.

[AndNoneForGretchenWieners]

We don't do Valentine's Day cards and gifts, and we don't celebrate the day we got together usually (I cooked a nice meal.last year because I remembered, which we don't always do). But we have been together for 18 years and celebrate our wedding anniversary now instead. We didn't celebrate a year of getting together only because I was in hospital having DS, and the following year we were married.

[newstartamiready]

Andnone- wow you two didn't mess around did you?

[BillDoor]

We don't do valentines for much the same reason as everyone else.
Plus my birthday is within days of valentines and I like the focus to be on me!
(It's something I'm quite funny about. I do so much for my family, I expect to be treated like a princess for just one day a year. Woe betide DP if he doesn't...)

[AndNoneForGretchenWieners]

newstart well the pregnancy was unplanned but we knew pretty soon that we wanted to get married.

[Aebj]

Happens to be our wedding anniversary. We had planned a Novemeber wedding but found out I would of been heavily pregnant with ds1. So moved everything right and the first date we were we all free was 14 feb .
As dh is navy we haven't spent many anniversarys together. So I'll probably send dh a card this year and he will send me one

[scardeyy]

I just get my husband heart shaped choc or something.

Also we celebrate our getting together anniversary, it will always be our main anniversary before our wedding anniversary - I suppose it depends how long you were together before married, if not long then it prob wouldn't have had the time to become a special day.

[SparkleShinyGlitter]

Me and dh have been together 19 years and always do a little something for valentines

Dh always sends a soppy message during the day which is unlike him as he's not the heart on sleeve kind
Meal at home
Bottle of champnage
Fancy box of chocolates and a film

[Sugarpiehoneyeye]

Just make him a nice, home cooked meal.
Failing that, a chocolate monster from Thorntons !

[LizzieMacQueen]

To me Valentine's Day is more for those who secretly admire someone.

You know, send a card with love from ? Xxxx

[MummyToThree479]

Me and dh always do something

He always sends flowers & a little poem which for him is hugely out of charter.

We normally get a take away and then once dc are asleep slip off to bed with bubbly