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Discussing a delicate subject

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user1484819829 Thu 19-Jan-17 10:11:49

Both my partner and I are in our 50s and have recently started our relationship which we both hope will be for life.
We have only recently started to become intimate and I have noticed that when she is aroused, there is an unpleasant aroma from her groin area, which is offputting, prohibits any form of foreplay in any shape or form and is so offputting I try to keep the bed covers secure.
I have never encountered this before and do not know how to approach this subject.
She is a very clean lady and surely must be aware of this?
This is my one and only post on this site as I do not know where to turn to?
Does she have a medical condition which she is unaware of?
Thank you in advance for any suggestions on the way forward.

SantaClausMortificado Thu 19-Jan-17 13:52:14

An unpleasant smell can be a symptom of cervical cancer:

www.nhs.uk/Conditions/Cancer-of-the-cervix/Pages/Symptoms.aspx

lifestyle.one/closer/diet-body/health-fitness/cervical-cancer-signs-symptoms/

You need to assess whether it is a normal smell that you just don't like (humans are attracted through natural bodily scent as well - if you particularly like someone's smell it is a sign that you are genetically compatible and have different immunities which is good when it comes to creating children). It is possible to find someone's natural normal smell unpleasant because you don't genetically "click". If that's the case, then you just aren't sexually compatible.

OR whether it is objectively an unpleasant smell - if it is the latter then you should raise it with her because it maybe a symptom of cervical cancer and should be checked out.

Cricrichan Thu 19-Jan-17 14:25:08

Maybe suggest a bath together first?

Gooseygoosey12345 Thu 19-Jan-17 14:26:00

Shower sex?

FurbysMakeSexNoises Thu 19-Jan-17 14:37:04

Lots of reasons- she needs a GP appointment- she will be mortified but needs to know if you have a future together.

Guiltypleasures001 Thu 19-Jan-17 14:46:15

If it's a fishy type of our it could be bacterial vaginosis, which is quite common and treatable with antibiotics or an insertable gel. Either way op you have to say something

Guiltypleasures001 Thu 19-Jan-17 14:46:44

Odour flaming iPad sorry

Pocketsaviour Thu 19-Jan-17 18:05:24

It's probably BV and you're going to have to address it. "You may not have noticed this, but I think you may need to see your doctor - there's a problem down below." Then make up some bullshit about an ex who had the same problem and you recognise the symptoms but aren't sure what the problem was, but it was easily sorted.

DowhatIwanttodo Thu 19-Jan-17 18:07:36

It seems odd that she is not aware of it hersellf.

Testificateman Thu 19-Jan-17 18:18:52

Very hard subject to approach your partner with but, you would be better off talking to her about this. What ever you do, do not mention that you have asked others for advice. Sit her down and tell her how much you feel about her then ask her if she has noticed the smell. Tell her that you are concerned about her health and that you think it might be something she need to talk to her doctor about.

user1484819829 Fri 20-Jan-17 19:19:45

Many thanks for the responses.
This is nothing to do with personal hygiene and more likely a case of, as has been described as BV.
I will discuss it as has been suggested.
Thank you once again.

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