Telling new bf my past...

[casualbikeride]

I made some mistakes when I was younger. I got in financial trouble and went bankrupt. Would you tell a bf or not??

It will have no impact on our lives but just wondered if I should. Wwyd??

[ferriswheel]

Yes I'd tell.

[PidgeyfinderGeneral]

I wouldn't keep it a secret but equally, I wouldn't be doing a whole big confessional thing about it. It's something that happened in your past, it doesn't define you as a person or your future.

[HalfaFishFingerAndTwoPeas]

Depends how long you've been together. 2 weeks? No. 2 years and moving in together? Yes.

[ShatnersBassoon]

Yes, though I'd wait until it seemed like you were serious enough to be making financial decisions together. It would be mentioned on a need to know basis.

[HalfaFishFingerAndTwoPeas]

Just seen new in the title no I wouldn't unless it comes up in conversation or things get serious.

[SheldonCRules]

Yes I'd tell, there should be no secrets.

For many, it would be a big no, I'd not date a partner who had gone bankrupt. Even if it happened when younger, they were still an adult.

[Juice23]

It depends how new the relationship is.. but yeah I would tell. No secrets is best, just be honest and your partner will see that things have changed now and you've learned from mistakes

[casualbikeride]

Thanks all. I thought I should but am dreading it. It's newish, we've known each other a long time and are finally going down the relationship route.

[CatBallou2]

You can tell new BF. No need to worry about it. It's just one of those things that can happen in life. You dealt with a difficult financial situation and have moved on.

Are you worried about his reaction?

[casualbikeride]

I think I'll wait and see how things go. We're not going to be making financial decisions together or moving in together anytime soon.

For info - half the debt included was my Exdps. He had credit cards in his name that were from accounts. Really wish I had a time machine 😞