A member of my very very close family cut me out of their life after I spoke up about their treatment by a new partner. I spoke up because I loved that person and wanted to protect them from harm. It backfired as they ran back to the person that was treating them badly and in a show of loyalty just cut me out of their life.
A family event is coming up that we are all invited to. Family member hasn't contacted me for a few years and although I've broken my heart over it I'm now a lot stronger and feel it's their loss not mine.
I'm dreading the event. It's not something I want to miss but also the thought of going there and seeing them is upsetting. The person is seen by the family as being the one in the wrong over the whole saga but when I said to my aunt that I hoped they wouldn't come over and bother talking to me as I'm over it all she said that if I wasn't civil to them and make small talk to avoid bad feeling at the event then I'd be the one in the wrong and that I was being childish.
After years of being cut out why should I be the one to now pretend everything is ok? the person involved is the type to try and speak to me in front of everyone in the family to publicly extend the olive branch in a show in front of everyone, my reaction is to tell them to shove their olive branch where the sun doesn't shine but if I do that then I'll be seen as the bad one.
The alternative is to miss the event but I don't see why I should.
Anyt advice?
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Tezacat · 16/01/2017 19:13
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