Hi, I would be grateful for any advice regarding my situation. I have avidly followed and learnt a lot from the stately homes thread and Atilla.
I have been married for twenty years pre children relationship with inlaws was ok. Since kids ours have been dropped and us in favour of one of the bils children. again and again painful situations arise where mil behaves atrociously and is enabled by fil. Most recently she told ds who is one of four sons that all he had ever done was use her, he was always difficult the only one that brought them problems, I was a wicked snake. Awful, painful things. For info we live six hours away see a few times a year whereas bil kids are more or less brought up by them. mil gleefully told me dg didn't like her mum and wanted to live with them. warped completely.
Following this there was little contact until a family event. Following this there was a phone call from fil with a six point list of complaints such as not paying her enough attention, not bringing the kids to the bar. She then stung us for £700 by denying she ever offered to pay. FYI we are lower end of comfortable, his pension alone is £90k.
Little phone contact since then but a family event is coming up and of course they'd love us there. I am not going I think the woman is a narcissist with munchausens no proxy. Dh spoken on phone to fil but allows still me and him to be scapegoated. Everything is my fault. I can't do it anymore he will never stand up to them or challenge them properly. Anytime we have challenged its met with "it's not all about you"
Sorry if this isn't very clear but I just feel defeated, disappointed. He knows I want him to challenge the wicked snake etc, mil doesn't speak on phone all conv via fil. He obv cares more about their reaction or fears their reaction. I'm at the end of the road we've been here before too many times.
ps I'm nc with inlaws
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end of my tether DH still won't stand up to inlaws or defend me
user1483300215 · 14/01/2017 01:18
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