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I'm married to a lovely man who I love and care for. We have three little children and he is amazing with them. We have been married for 8 years after a whirlwind romance. In every way, apart from the bedroom, I'm really happy.
The sex is non existent due to his disability (I won't say what it is as I am worried about being outed). I have a high libido and after so long with no sex I am really struggling. I am finding that after so long, masturbation is not helpful and may be it is making me feel lonelier. I really crave sex with another person.
It is affecting my mental health and I feel trapped, like there is no way out of my mess.
Being proactive, six months ago I asked an ex boyfriend if he wanted an FWB relationship but he declined. I asked an older male colleague if he was interested in FWB but again he declined. I have no other male friends to ask.
So I may have to go on the internet, but I'm worried about safety issues etc.
Me and hubby are planning to go to a counsellor to talk through this problem, but probably discussions will be lengthy and I dont see any resolution other than me leaving or me not having sex again.
I feel I can't wait much longer to have sex. Anyway, in the mean time I'm trying to remain resiliant and improve my confidence by losing weight and looking beautiful (!). Any tips from women suffering from similar would be really helpful.
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Hubby disabled, no sex
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Inbedathome · 12/01/2017 10:39
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