I've only had codependent/abusive relationships in the past so please bear with me.
I've been out with this guy on a couple of dates and they went well. We haven't kissed or been together in a sexual sense, but he seems to enjoy my company, and I enjoy his. There is definitely a spark and he comes over as a nice person.
There are a few things that give me pause, but I'm worried I'm being neurotic because of my past.
Whenever he messages me over Whatsapp or texts me, he seems excited to chat. On new years eve, he sent me a little picture, thanking me for being one of the people who made him smile in 2016. But sometimes he won't view my Whatsapp message or reply for upwards of 12 hours, often as many as 24.
This makes me think that he's not that into me, or has a few irons in the fire, so to speak.
After all, what student could be that busy over Christmas (we're both mature students in our mid 20s)?
When I'm with him, he always has his phone on him, and sometimes will get a message but he just looks at it and doesn't answer. So perhaps it's just his way.
My worry is that he's with somebody else and I'm heading for disaster. But the relationships I've had in the past have been with men who required constant communication. If I didn't reply all the time, they'd assume I was cheating on them. So my normal is potentially skewed.
I've kept my messages light and only reply when he sends me something, and I never "double text".
He mentioned to me over Christmas that his ex had sent him a "weird letter" and he also alluded to the fact he'd seen another woman a few months ago. I don't know if that makes him a bit of a player.
He was the one who initially approached me, got my number, asked me out and so on. I am basically letting him lead, but I definitely like him. I'm just cautious about getting invested if he's not that into me.
So, basically, is it normal to text a person at, say, 1pm, and then not reply to their response for a day or so?
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12 hours+ to text back... normal?
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nameychanges · 05/01/2017 17:14
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