Hello...have been in a relationship for a while with a man who is ex military (won't say anymore). He very quickly wanted to start a family/get married etc but doesn't want to spend any time with me (only saw him on the 23rd Dec and he stayed up drinking until about 3 in the morning and then started a fight because he said I was trying to control him because I was very tired and wanted to go to bed). The next day he said we could see one another in the days between Christmas and the new year but first he was ill, then his mother turned up and then he went out with a mate and now he's in London for the new year so I have finally taken him off my phone making it impossible for me to contact him again. It is so confusing...and while I am no expert from what I have seen personally I think he is suffering from combat stress and people I have confided in say he is nuts (as he has threatened to kill me). His previous partner cheated on him...now while I'm not condoning what she did but when I asked him a little about it he said he never called her when he was away on tour because in his words 'it is the quickest way to get shot thinking about home' ...he just doesn't get it...and I don't get this thing about him wanting me to have his child either unless it is just to keep me where he wants me. I admit to going on at him a bit but I don't think expecting someone to spend some time together over Christmas is a big ask. So that is why I have taken his number off my phone because even though I hate him more than I love him I am weak and it is the only way I can stop this sorry merry go round. Don't know what will happen next...any thoughts?
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