So tonight has confirmed to me i need to leave oh. I cant bare another year of the same shit. Hes depressed uses alcohol to numb his heas and get aggressive ratty snappy plain nasty with me and out children. He says thibgs to them like 'well thats ur mothers fault' or 'go on run to ur mother' like they are wrong for wanting comfort when upset. He tells our youngest son whos two to 'man up' cs hes sesitive and tries to force him to fight his older tougher brother. I ibviously dont stand by and watch this but i step in and its the usual oh heres your mother to soften you up. Ive realised hes vile. But i have numerous concerns in leaving
- We share a very big mortgage one i couldnt possibly cover and children dont want to leave the house
- I leave and he'll get half custody?! Ir acess at least as i dont know how to prove the wat he is. The thought of our beautiful children with that unsupervised scares the hell out of me
- My children love their dad... How do i rule him out completely without them hating me
- Im sahm and dont work how do i now support them
- Hes nasty and knows alot of nasty ppl he always talks about ppl he knows who'll he'll get to 'sort' his problems out when ppl annoy him. Im scared we wont b safe.
- He has waaaaay more money than me for best solicitors/lawyers etc
- Hes that depressed i think me leaving will push him to complete psycho status. He doesnt care for his life... What if he takes the kids or does something else equally bad.
I know i can't stay with him ideally id like to beeak amicablly and share kids but for everything above i think hes going to make that imposdible!!
Where do i find the stregth to do this
To put my children through something they will not understand is for the best for a very long time. Theyre only babies 4 and 2