I've been married 8 years, 2 young children.
Have been trying for a long time to salvage marriage after his affair. Things have never been the same since, obviously. I don't trust him, always think he's up to no good, and he understands why.
Sex life is zero, mainly because my self esteem is non-existent and he told OW that I was shit in bed so now that's how I feel. He slaughtered my personality and every aspect about me (I saw all the correspondence between them). If anyone else had read what was said about me they would have thought I was the biggest bitch / worst most selfish, horrid person alive.
I know I should have left him then, but I'm an idiot and hindsight is a wonderful thing.... I think my self esteem is so low that I thought no one would ever want me again.
I have very few friends & find it difficult to make new ones. My self esteem is rock bottom, I hate my (well paid) job. Literally the only thing I live for is my children. If it wasn't for them I don't know what I would do.
I have no money to my name (don't flame me for this. I have had 2 back to back maternity leaves, a large mortgage, so saving has been impossible as I was on basic SMP)
Today he called me something really horrible in front of the children and I've spent most of the afternoon crying.
I want him to leave / agree on a split, but my salary, although good will not pay mortgage, and childcare for 2 children. I cannot afford a solicitor. I cannot afford to rent in the meantime.
What do I need to do now ?? I cannot think straight in how to proceed now. House is in joint names.
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