Partner lied about getting me a christmas gift

[Isyss]

I dont understand why he did this? I havent been with him long, a few months. I caught something on his phone, he was messaging his "friend" who was female, after this we spoke and worked things out.
He said he will get me a pair of designer shoes for xmas, a few days ago when I saw him and he went to harrods he told me he got them and that the woman who helped him pick them out said "when she sees them she will want to marry you"
and claimed he left them at his friends house and will give them to me closer to xmas.

I saw him after this and I saw him yesterday he never brought the shoes or even mentioned them.

I am taking it he lied about it but i dont get why? He is the one who suggested it I said he doesnt have to get me anything.

what was the point in all this? now it is making me see him as a liar and untrustworthy

[Thattimeofyearagain]

He is a liar and untrustworthy. He's showing you who he is.

[Wileycoyote]

Bin him

[TheoriginalLEM]

dump

[TrustySnail]

These sound like head games to me.

[twattymctwatterson]

Jesus get rid

[TheClacksAreDown]

Get rid. He likes playing with your head

[Mistykit]

Run away.. quickly. He's messing with your head

[OohhThatsMe]

You've been spun a complete lie. He bought shoes for you from Harrods? Bollocks. And I'd bet my house he's still talking to his little friend.

[DancingDinosaur]

Thats weird. If he's lied then you need to get rid. Not because he didn't buy you a gift, but because that is an odd thing to do. It sounds like he is playing games with you.

[tribpot]

Not really the point, but not even Cinderella wanted to marry someone based on a pair of shoes.

[InTheKitchenAtParties]

Don't just get rid. Ghost him.

[Lindy2]

In a healthy relationship you would be perfectly confident to simply ask him where the shoes are that he said he had bought you. If you can't ask and you think it's all been a lie, then it doesn't sound like a good relationship to me.

[InTheKitchenAtParties]

You need to ask him directly 'where's my shoes?'

[InTheKitchenAtParties]

X post with Lindy2

[gamerchick]

Ask him, he'll still say they're at his mates until you stop asking.

He will do this sort of thing repeatedly. Save yourself years and dump his arse now.

But ask him, he'll look you dead in the eye and then you'll know.

[Hellooooitsme]

Did you give him anything?

[InfoFreako]

Ask him straight "did you buy me Christmas shoes and if so where are they?"

Sounds like he likes to big himself up (low self-esteem maybe?) Some folk would call him a bull-shitter.

Good luck!

Cheers.

[pregnantat50]

I would say "so when do I get to see these shoes that will make me want to be your wife?" in a light hearted way...watch him squirm or see a light bulb moment appear on his face when he remembers the shoes (praying for that being the way it pans out, but if he comes up with anything else, he really isnt worth your time )

[bloodyteenagers]

Ask him.
Expect to either be gaslighted. 'Shoes, what shoes?'
Or some ridiculous story about them being damaged at his mates. Or his mates sisters, cats neighbours is best mates with a fly who lives in a house with someone who loves shoes. There was a mix up and the sister thought they were for her. And of course the mate couldn't say no. By which time Harrods was closed and his mates a bit skint so will come in a few weeks.

[pregnantat50]

what is this womans role in all this, do you know her, could you ask her directly about the shoes?

[YetAnotherSpartacus]

Dump and run.

[TurnipCake]

You've only been together for a few months, and already there were issues to get through

Jeez, life is too short

[happychristmasbum]

Bin Him!