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Uncle charged with child sex offences - oh my god

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dontknowmuch Sun 18-Feb-07 21:33:10

Theres been some issues in the last year in the family and to cut a long story short my cousin said her dad had abused her when she was a kid (in the 80's so quite a while ago). It now turns out that he abused another child who has since come forward.

Its been a major blow, he is a great guy (or so everyone thought). But now he has been charged with 47 offences! We just can't believe it, does that sound alot to you. I can't even begin to think what that must mean. I'm told that some of the charges are duplicates as it's the same thing but is against two people so it counts as 2.

Will he get put away for it?

colditz Sun 18-Feb-07 21:34:29

Almost without a doubt.

FotheringtonTomas Sun 18-Feb-07 21:35:00

one life ruined by abuse is enough... i do understand that this is a shock but, assuming this is all true, your uncle is definitely not a great guy.

ShinyHappyBirthdayPerson Sun 18-Feb-07 21:35:18

Let's hope so!

So sorry DKM, this much be quite quite awful for you and the whole family but this man has done some terrible things and needs to be held accountable, better late than never.

OttergavebirthonValentines Sun 18-Feb-07 21:35:24

lets hope so Bastard

IntergalacticWalrus Sun 18-Feb-07 21:37:13

Oh God, DKM, how awful for your family.

However, it sounds like he has done some terrible things, which he will almost certainly be punished for.

MerlinsBeard Sun 18-Feb-07 21:37:20

As awful as it is for you and your family, the lives of those he abused will have been much much worse, i am glad they found the strength to come forward and charge him

dontknowmuch Sun 18-Feb-07 21:43:02

My cousin is very strong (or so it seems) and sounds prepared to stand in court too which is amazing. She (and her mum and other family) have a lot of good support.

I can't get over the number of charges and believe me, I want him to get put away as much as anyone. Its just like so much has been a complete sham over all the years

Hulababy Sun 18-Feb-07 21:44:32

Yes, if found guilty he will undoubtly go to prison for this.

Hard as it seems right now toyou, he doesn't sound like a great guy. Quite the opposite. Next few months are going to be really tough for you all. I suspect you will probably go through some form of grieving process yourself - grieving for the man you thought you knew who is no longer there (replaced by someone capable of horrid things).

lissielou Sun 18-Feb-07 21:46:38

oh my god! im sorry, but i hope hes put away for a very long time.

sick bastard

Heavenis Sun 18-Feb-07 21:49:07

He will be put away and he will also be put on the sex offenders register.

wannaBeWhateverIWannaBe Sun 18-Feb-07 21:50:50

am so sorry you're all going through this.

the reaon it would seem like so many offences is because every time he abused your cousin would be listed as a separate offence iyswim and the same for the other girl.

hope your cousin has lots of support.

dontknowmuch Sun 18-Feb-07 22:03:48

I don't understand how it works exactly, I think it would be more if it was every time. He was doing it from about 7-15 on a regular basis

Ivor Sun 18-Feb-07 22:12:41

A good friend of mine is a police officer who worked on a case of child abuse last year (that particular sick git has gone to prison for the rest of his natural). She told me that the severity of the offence is dependant upon the age of the child, basically the younger the child the longer the sentence in prison.
I feel for you DKM to think someone you loved could be capable of that is awful.

chipkid Sun 18-Feb-07 22:16:29

The length of sentence will depend on whether he pleads guilty or not. If he is convicted after a trial where the victims are cross-examined-he will get some serious time-talking 8 years plus in my experience.

chipkid Sun 18-Feb-07 22:17:34

Also should have said will depend on the seriousness of the abuse-ie rapes are more serious than indecent assault etc.

dontknowmuch Sun 18-Feb-07 22:19:33

He did everything you could think of. Has said he didn't do it.

chipkid Sun 18-Feb-07 22:20:40

then if convicetd he will go away for a very long time.
Do you believe it is a true bill?

dontknowmuch Sun 18-Feb-07 22:21:34

Sorry, whats a true bill?

chipkid Sun 18-Feb-07 22:22:01

do you think that your cousins are being truthful?

dontknowmuch Sun 18-Feb-07 22:23:43

Wasn't sure at first, shock I suppose, but having heard what i have heard - yes I do believe them. One of them had told someone years ago (not a family member) she said she didnt' want to break the family up. Its heartbreaking

chipkid Sun 18-Feb-07 22:27:11

How absolutely awful for her and for you. This will not be an easy few months.

mysonsmummy Sun 18-Feb-07 22:27:27

hes probably done it to loads more kids too - if he can do it to his daughter. if he has, i hope its an ideal time if another person is suffering in silence about him to get if off their chest. i know i would!!

mysonsmummy Sun 18-Feb-07 22:28:09

err ... do kids lie about this sort of thing????????

chipkid Sun 18-Feb-07 22:28:42

yes sometimes they do.

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