Long story short, my dh left me 3 months ago, no real reason other then he was unhappy and couldn't do it anymore. I'm handling it the best I can but it's obviously devastating.
With Xmas coming up it was arranged that we would still do it together, he would come over and spend the day with the kids and leave about dinner time. I'm really really struggling to be amicable, I thought it would be calmer by now but I'm still furious, feel like there is no real reason for what is happening, I don't think I can pretend-i know I'm supposed to be a grown up and rational but he makes my blood boil. I just tried to have a talk with him and hash it out, explain how I was feeling and that I was struggling, he got furious- so so mad, he kicked a chair at me, kept smashing his fists down and slamming doors. I don't understand his anger- I feels it's so misplaced, I know I should be feeling it but why should he?
I know I have to get my shit together for the kids sake and just get through the day but I'm so worried it s going to be this horrible toxic atmosphere (that I grew up with) everyone pretending to get on, but secretly going into other rooms to cry or scream.
Has anyone managed to do this so soon after separating? Has anyone actually managed a good Xmas day with things separated?
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ruddyfantastic · 11/12/2016 20:46
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