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Of course he forgot my birthday.

(39 Posts)
PeteSwotatoes Mon 28-Nov-16 12:18:50

On/off and never properly together for over 3 years. Lived together. No kids. He would never commit and got with other women. It's my birthday and he's said nothing. Of course he's said nothing, he's never acknowledged my birthday or got me anything.

Maybe this time I can get rid.

AnyFucker Mon 28-Nov-16 12:19:44

This is not a relationship

Yes, you should get rid and find someone who values you

WellErrr Mon 28-Nov-16 12:20:55

Yes, make it your birthday present to yourself. The rest of your life without this millstone.

LightsLoveLaughter Mon 28-Nov-16 12:21:15

AF has said it all perfectly.

Cucumber5 Mon 28-Nov-16 12:21:21

You're not still with him are you? The birthday thing could be forgivable but not seeing other women

whatminniedidnext Mon 28-Nov-16 12:21:38

Doesn't sound promising...

What do you do for his birthday?

PeteSwotatoes Mon 28-Nov-16 12:24:01

I got him a present for each birthday. Stupidly.

AnyFucker Mon 28-Nov-16 12:25:27

You are just the Fall Back Girl

Stop taking him back when he shags about. Ignore this "we wuz on a break" nonsense.

He's a Shagger and you are allowing it. He's not even a charming Shagger, he's just shit.

PeteSwotatoes Mon 28-Nov-16 12:27:04

Thanks AF, you're right. I keep making excuses for it but there is no excuse.

NotTheFordType Mon 28-Nov-16 12:29:44

Have a read of this, OP

You are worth so much more than the crumbs from this man's table.

Ohdearducks Mon 28-Nov-16 12:31:07

Block and bin. He's a user and you deserve better.

AnyFucker Mon 28-Nov-16 12:32:31

That's the one, NTFT

Also, the Baggage Reclaim website is fantastic too

Boredbeforeievenbegan Mon 28-Nov-16 12:36:23

Do it! You deserve better.

LouisvilleLlama Mon 28-Nov-16 12:38:32

I agree with AF!

PeteSwotatoes Mon 28-Nov-16 12:46:13

I've been reading her books for a while - she's a brilliant author. For some reason it's not stuck. I think I need to make the change today and move on with my life.

expatinscotland Mon 28-Nov-16 12:50:11

Oh, fuck him off. Give yourself a birthday gift, get rid of this millstone.

Tenshidarkangel Mon 28-Nov-16 12:57:49

Go buy yourself an epically awesome birthday present. Show yourself some love, relax, feel great and then throw the toad to the curb.

PS Happy Birthday cake

TheNaze73 Mon 28-Nov-16 13:05:30

You're plan B & always will be. Restore your pride & end it

HalfShellHero Mon 28-Nov-16 13:08:07

Yes get rid OP!, brill advice on here , good luck !

whatminniedidnext Mon 28-Nov-16 18:02:31

Ok well you get him a birthday pressie every year, he gets you nothing.... I think you know what you need to do. You sound like a generous person, you deserve better than this guy. He is not treating you right. I would move on. flowers

Idontbelievethelies Mon 28-Nov-16 18:10:18

He didn't forget your birthday. He ignored it.
Ghost him. You can't really dump him, you're not in a relationship.

Happy birthday OP.

PeteSwotatoes Mon 28-Nov-16 21:13:10

He just messaged me and complained he was feeling ill. I said "ok", he asked what was up. I said "you forgot my birthday again".

I got sent back: "no hun I didn't. That's why I was messaging you. Oh whatever have a nice day speak to you later".

Mind games every time

borage13 Mon 28-Nov-16 21:16:03

So his birthday message to you was to tell you that he's feeling ill? He's said it himself. "Oh, whatever". He's started drawing the line for you - finish it.

SleepyRoo Mon 28-Nov-16 21:22:19

You obviously have deep feelings for him, making this a painful situation, but the reality is that this relationship is over. He's treating you badly and you are having your time wasted. Rip the plaster off - end it.

Ohdearducks Mon 28-Nov-16 21:23:02

So somehow it's your fault? Gaslighting prick bin, bin, bin!

Oh whatever? Get fucked dick for brains angry

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