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My ex has just told me he is dating someone

(15 Posts)
Unrequitedlove Sat 26-Nov-16 13:33:39

And it hurts. I've just broken down.
I'm still trying to move on and we only split over the summer.

DarkNightDelight Sat 26-Nov-16 13:49:23

It gets easier, don't stalk or check up on him.

Take some you time to find yourself again.

You're stronger than you think or want to believe flowers

Blobby10 Sat 26-Nov-16 13:58:36

My ex h wasnt quite as quick to start dating again (we split up in June 2015) but when he told me a couple of months ago that hed had several dates it was like a punch in the stomach to me. Dont get me wrong, Im delighted hes able to find other people but theres a huge part of me screaming "whats wrong with me?" xx

I agree with DarkNightDelight - dont rush to move on. Try to learn and enjoy your own company and regain your confidence in being YOU and not so and so's husband/partner/girlfriend etc I do think men find it easier to move on as they dont invest so emotionally as us ladies do.

Wishing you lots of luck xx

Unrequitedlove Sat 26-Nov-16 15:02:04

Thank you for your replies.
I really don't think that I'll ever trust again.
I still love him. We only lost a baby earlier this year. I think, how could he?

BillericayDuckie Sat 26-Nov-16 16:32:59

Ahh feel for you. Found out the same for my ex today. Feel gutted that he's moved on and found someone else so easily.

Hugs to you cos it doesn't feel good at all flowers

jeaux90 Sat 26-Nov-16 18:59:54

Because he's weak and can't be on his own. You, however, are strong, you'll recover and find the joy of being on your own before moving on and making a better choice next time.

TheNaze73 Sat 26-Nov-16 19:23:43

He's an ex for a reason, wish him well & move on

ocelot7 Sat 26-Nov-16 19:24:54

Seems to be easier for men to move on - they don't have such high expectations...

Ohdearducks Sat 26-Nov-16 19:26:16

If you don't have kids just make a clean break. Keeping in touch keeps old wounds open.

Sneakynamechage Sat 26-Nov-16 19:51:50

jeaux so because he wants to continue on with life that makes him weak? He has a right to move on with his life.

Of course it's not nice for you, but people move on in different ways.

user1468353179 Sat 26-Nov-16 19:53:51

What sneaky said. He's your ex for a reason, you need to let him go.

jeaux90 Sat 26-Nov-16 20:10:08

No sneaky what makes him weak is not being able to be in his own. I know very few men, only 3, who take a decent break between a relationship and moving into something new. Most of the guys I know had exit affairs and tell me they are seeing someone because they are lonely. Just my experience. I'm single by the way, no axe to grind here.

Ohyesiam Sat 26-Nov-16 20:56:24

Ouch, I feel for you.
Be gentle with yourself, and try to steer your mind away from him. Difficult, but possible.
As someone up thread said, you are stronger than you know.

Unrequitedlove Sat 26-Nov-16 22:28:42

Thanks. I feel better tonight and yes had begun to let go anyway. No kids and lives a fair distance from me.
I was his rebound from marriage.
He has moved very quickly from relationship to relationship.. yes, men do seem to move on quicker. Everyone does move on in different ways however it just felt like a blow.

zippey Sun 27-Nov-16 09:27:06

Good luck OP. However I don't think being lonely and wanting to date other people makes you weak or that the person they are dating is of low expectation. We are all human beings. And plenty of women aren't single for long.

You'll get there OP.

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