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Am I being selfish to end this relationship because I'm not happy?

(5 Posts)
birdsongg Thu 17-Nov-16 00:06:08

Have name changed.
I've been with DP for a few years, have a DC together. Had a few stressful years and now I'm at the point where I am just ready to be happy. I want to be on my own and work on myself.
As cliche as it sounds I've really lost who I am and I can't focus on my relationship because of it.
He also really annoys me. I've been finding myself getting frustrated just being around him and feeling almost relieved when I'm on my own.
Would I be selfish to want to end the relationship just because I want to be by myself?
Has anyone just not been happy and left someone and how did you manage?

SandyY2K Thu 17-Nov-16 07:28:53

I don't think it's selfish.

It's more selfish to stay and subject him and yourself to being unhappy.

I'd rather my husband left if he felt the way you do and I could move on with my life.

You only get one life, so make the most of it.

TheNaze73 Thu 17-Nov-16 07:47:18

I'm with sandy You'd be far more selfish to stay

LetsAllEatCakes Thu 17-Nov-16 08:13:04

Agreed that it's more selfish to stay. You'll just be dragging yourself and him down.

hellsbellsmelons Thu 17-Nov-16 08:19:46

Sounds like the relationship has run it's course and you've lost the love.
You get one shot at this life.
Don't spend it being miserable.

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