I'm sitting here questioning if I'm cut out for relationships and wondering if I'm alone here in my thinking.
I'm 34, have three children and am over two years out an emotional and controlling relationship.
In this time, I ignored advice to stay single and find myself. I went on to have a short term relationship with a similar controlling man (I never saw the signs initally). I proceeded to have two failed non starter relationships. Both men were decent bit I sabotaged them with my 'other thinking/jealously/clingyness).
I took 6 months out and enjoyed being single. Something I never thought I would be able to. I felt ready to start dating. After lots of self help books etc, I thought I'd cured myself and was ready to have a mature normal relationship.
My current boyfriend of 8 months, has been nothing short of wonderful. It seems very balanced and nice. However, we live quite far apart and had been seeing each other every 2 weeks.
This weekend, we decided to introduce the kids (he has children too). All of this was his idea (I agreed of course) and he was overly keen. Weekend went well, kids got on and I was blissfully happy. I senses that him seeing me that extra weekend was toon much for him. Even though he said he had a nice time.
When we spoke this eve, he said maybe some weekends when I come to his we should cut the weekend shorter (me going home a day earlier.
I have always said that we didn't have to spend whole weekends together, but he insisted that he wanted to spend as much time as possible with me. So this came as a blow so soon after oureading big meet up.
There have been other things. Initially he said he'd marry me one day, sees a future with me etc. I took it with a pinch of salt (early days and all) but now he makes jokeyou comments with me ie. Not ready to live together just yet, subject change anytime a mention of weddings etc (not about me/us). And now the above.
I'm general he is lovely but I have anxiety around relationshipso as I question everything. Thinking my life willik be simpler without the added drama in my head. If I was single.
Am I mad?
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Dephane12 · 13/11/2016 19:51
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