My marriage is very up and down. Today is another down. I have chronic pain and mobility problems so struggle with physical housework, although I do all the organising, finance etc. Husband is completely disorganised and has no self discipline so we make a bad combination. He stressed at work, angry and negative, he's edging into abusive territory, he promises to get therapy and never does. I'm fed up and feel I would cope better on my own - we have two young school age children. I work part time but can see this increasing if I can physically cope - it's office work. Unfortunately I don't earn enough and even if we spilt, sold the family home etc, I'd never be able to afford to stay locally, the kids are in a great school and I can better further my career here.
My only option right now would be for me to leave and live really far away with my family. He would never let me take the kids nor would he move out. So my only choice is to quietly start planning for a longer term plan. I just have no idea, save winning the lottery, what I can do make an escape plan. I feel completely trapped. I gave up a previous career to stay home with the kids for several years so he's massively advantaged financially in comparison.
Please or to access all these features
Please
or
to access all these features
Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody
Relationships
Long term divorce planning
9 replies
ShastaBeast · 13/11/2016 18:13
OP posts:
Please create an account
To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.