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emm0371 · 07/11/2016 20:11

I have been with my partner nearly a year now. We live together.
Today we both got offers jobs with the same company. Opposite ends of the building. Office work. Anyway he says to me in the car that we should pretend to be single to see who may be interested????? Seriously my heart stopped. He cheated on his x wife five years ago. My gut feeling is exploding. I am not scared to be alone, but am I overreacting?

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user114114 · 07/11/2016 20:12

Errrr no! That is not normal!

Not really sure what else to say but I wouldn't go along with that at all!!

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Fedupofhim · 07/11/2016 20:13

Tell him to take a hike.

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TurnipCake · 07/11/2016 20:14

WTF?

This guy wants an excuse to do it in plain sight, the cheeky bellend

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emm0371 · 07/11/2016 20:16

Yeah my thoughts exactly.

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leaveittothediva · 07/11/2016 20:17

If he is serious. He needs to be single. He's not learned a thing from his marriage break up, he's carrying on with the same game plan. A recipe for disaster.

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NotTheFordType · 07/11/2016 20:17

I would assume he was just joking? In poor taste, but I'd say poorly judged rather than an indicator of intent.

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emm0371 · 07/11/2016 20:19

When he realised I was not laughing at his lame attempt he said he was joking.

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Ohdearducks · 07/11/2016 20:25

Sounds like he doesn't want any women at the new job to know he's got a girlfriend. That would set alarm bells off for me.

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emm0371 · 07/11/2016 20:38

Yeah, that was just what I thought too. There are so many other things that ring alarm bells to me. He doesn't like the fact that once I qualify as a PT, I will be surrounded by gym guys and that sort. I have never cheated and never will, somehow, since we have been together, my gut instinct has not left me alone. He is very much into how he looks and loves attention.

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Foxtato · 07/11/2016 20:43

There's no reason to say to do something like that except give himself options and chances.

So disrespectful.

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emm0371 · 07/11/2016 20:47

Yeah, he just laughed at me when I said that, and told me he was joking. We are both in our 40s so not young adults. Thank you all for your replays.

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spicyfajitas · 08/11/2016 09:29

He's telling you who he is. Please listen and untangle yourself from him

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IreallyKNOWiamright · 08/11/2016 09:34

I would be livid. If my dh said that I would think I'm an embarrassment to him.

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hellsbellsmelons · 08/11/2016 13:36

He sounds like a knob-head.
I know what I'd be saying to him.
Your gut has not left you alone and it never will.
It's no way to carry on though.
You are in your 40's. Look great. Get out there and find a man who is so proud to be with you he tells everyone!

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