A ex of my partner's has just got back in touch with him. We've not talked in any detail about exes so I'm not sure exactly when they were together, but I believe it was for a just few months around 10 years ago. All I know is she cheated on him and after they split she told him had they met later in life she feels they would have worked out. He has always said he would never get back with an ex, especially one who cheated on him and I've never had a reason to think any more of it until now.
We've been together for just over 6 years, not married, but own a house together so there's a level of commitment there. I'm not in contact with any of my exes and to my knowledge up until now he's not been in contact with any of his. She called him out of the blue late one night a month or so ago, (he didn't have her number in his phone so didn't know it was her calling). She was drunk and started asking questions about his life, relationship etc. He did tell me about this as soon as he saw me (he was working when she called) but we were with a friend at the time so I didn't ask questions. I just thought it was a one off drunk call and he didn't seem keen on talking with her any further.
Last week he mentioned she was drunk and had been in touch again (she only calls when she's drunk apparently). Again, nothing from the way he was talking made me think he was interested in chatting with her. I didn't want to seem like the jealous girlfriend, so didn't ask too much about it. However, he left his Facebook logged in on a shared computer and I noticed her name in recent messages. I know it was wrong to look, but he's been talking with her quite frequently over the past couple of weeks. Nothing especially flirtatious, but he has been offering to call her on an evening, reminiscing about old friends they shared etc. I'm pretty taken aback and not sure how to proceed. Should I just let it run its course, I'm fairly sure she's just lonely and will probably meet someone and stop messaging my OH before long. It's difficult as contact with exes has never been something we've dealt with in our relationship up until now.
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What would you consider reasonable contact with an ex?
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Stefoscope · 06/11/2016 22:35
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