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blurted out I love you on first night with new partner

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embarrassedbuthopingitsalright Fri 04-Nov-16 00:38:22

I'm so embarrassed. Back story: we've been friends for 10 years but despite a mutual attraction never got together until recently when, for the first time, we were both single.

For about a month we've been slowly making the shift from friends to lovers and last night we had the most incredible night of passion.

But in the middle of it all, I blurted out "I love you". shock

He didn't really react so I immediately kissed him hard to distract him! grin

Neither of us have mentioned it since. We've just come off the phone talking to each other about the day, and are going on another date at the weekend.

How bad is it?

GCHQMonitoring Fri 04-Nov-16 01:02:28

Quite bad, but it made me chuckle. smile

At least you have known him for a while, from your title I thought you were going to say you'd only met him recently! If he's agreed to another date, you haven't scared him off yet!
Sorry to not give any decent advice or suggestions

OlennasWimple Fri 04-Nov-16 01:35:24

Well, DH and I talked about marriage on the second date - 15 years later still going strong...

OlennasWimple Fri 04-Nov-16 01:36:18

Oh, but if he hasn't suddenly become too busy to see you again, you haven't scared him off! Maybe just not mention it and see how things go?

(Did you mean it?)

FeedMeAndTellMeImPretty Fri 04-Nov-16 01:45:21

I did this blush

And I hadn't known him 10 years, we'd only just met that night! blush blush

Luckily for me, he thought it was cute - he has a massive ego and just thought "well, of course she loves me, why wouldn't she?!"

He regularly ribs me about it 4 years later - sounds like you haven't scared yours off yet either grin

I read something the other day about it...apparently it's to do with the collapsing of ego boundaries confused

SplendidPanda Fri 04-Nov-16 01:45:48

I told my bf I loved him before we even got together blush 6 years later and here we are.

I wouldn't stress about it. Besides, words said in the heat of the moment kinda seem to count for less iyswim. If you'd sat him down and had a big serious discussion about being in love with him maybe that would have been a bit much for such an early stage.

embarrassedbuthopingitsalright Fri 04-Nov-16 01:56:45

(Did you mean it?)

Yes blush

But in a "I loved you as a friend and now we're becoming lovers and the sex is rocking, I'm really happy" kinda way. Not declaring undying love and babies or anything like that.

Thank you for the replies. General consensus seems to be that since we're talking about when our next date is it's been successfully glossed over?

whattodowiththepoo Fri 04-Nov-16 05:38:17

DP said she loved me and I said I loved her, I immediately realised she had said "I love your cat"
It will be fine.

wonderingsoul Fri 04-Nov-16 07:16:38

Dp told me he loved me quite warly on after some drinks..... i told him to shut up.

2 years on he still ribs me for that.

Ya fine... hope you have a wonderfull 2nd...3rd...100th date. X

Lovemylittlebear Fri 04-Nov-16 07:23:50

Lol when I told my husband after two months he said - sorry I don't feel that way about you yet smile LOL and I said it drunk like you do to your girl friends when you are hugging everyone and like your brilliant - I love you - kind of thing. Awkward....but very funny smile

TheNaze73 Fri 04-Nov-16 07:40:17

I think you can actually tell a lot about a relationship, in the early stages by how someone would react to a bombshell like that.
I think the vast majority of people would panic & run to the hills but, if it's laughed off or gently played with, it actually says a lot about where his heads at. If I was with someone I thought was right, I'd joke about it.
I think this is actually a positive Op albeit, very funny at the same time wink

embarrassedbuthopingitsalright Fri 04-Nov-16 11:42:50

He did have a big goofy grin on his face when I pulled him in for the distraction kiss so he clearly found it funny too.
Thanks for the support I'm going to stop stressing about it now. No harm done yet it seems (although I'm going to wait until he says it now!!!)

TheNaze73 Fri 04-Nov-16 12:09:12

Just don't get stressed & preoccupied with him saying it. Those 3 words mean a lot to me & I wouldn't dream of saying it, for at least a year

Imnotaslimjim Fri 04-Nov-16 12:13:19

My DH told me he loved me on our first date. It was very spontaneous after an extremely passionate kiss and I ended up not going home we got engaged just a few weeks later and have married 15 years. It isn't always a bad thing!

embarrassedbuthopingitsalright Fri 04-Nov-16 12:39:02

Good advice Naze. Thank you. You are right, I think he's the type to only say it when he is truly serious. Whearas I apparently have no filter! Well they do say opposites attract I suppose!

TheNaze73 Fri 04-Nov-16 13:34:40

Yes embarrassed you're spot on about opposites. smile

I've just seen friends get preoccupied & sweating the small stuff & jeopardise potential great relationships by pushing too quickly.

There's no right or wrong on either side, just acknowledging that every person & relationship is different. Some people think once they've said it, that's it & really mean it & want to be sure, to minimising hurt if things were to go wrong after. And in the early days the lust/love line can be very blurred in the early relationship bubble

MagicSocks Fri 04-Nov-16 14:33:26

I think that's kind of adorable smile. It doesn't sound as if you've put him off. So don't feel awkward about it...but maybe don't blurt it out again for a while. I think the fact that you've known each other that long helps, and the fact that your vibe is clearly not one of desperatation. Don't stress about him saying it to you either, just enjoy every stage.

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