Hi ladies. I'm in a bit of a pickle. My relationship has been up and down for a couple of years, and the main thing we argue over is my husband's drinking. He goes to the local pub maybe twice a week (by himself or with his family- he doesn't have many friends, just chats to other men in the bar). Sometimes (about once every three weeks) he gets really drunk. He might stay out much later than intended, fall asleep on the couch with his coat still on, get sick etc. He has lately started sleep walking when drunk, and climbing into strange places to sleep, it was the bath last time. This weekend he got into a wicker chest I keep my work clothes in, urinated on them, and fell asleep in it. I took a photo of him, or he wouldn't have believed me.
He says I make him feel uncomfortable about his drinking as I judge him.
I maintain he has a drink problem, and I've tried being angry, being upset, now I'm just being straight. I'm worried about him and looking over our rows over the last number of years, it is all down to drink. I get anxious when he goes out as I don't know will it be a couple of quiet beers or a black out episode.
I love him. I don't want our marriage to end. But I cannot stand by much longer- we have a 20 month old son, whom I need to protect.
He goes days without a drink sometimes and never misses work, and is a great Dad, and husband in most other ways.
I don't know what to do, he's extremely defensive, hates talking about it and doesn't think he has a problem. He has said he will reduce the amount he is drinking in light of the weekend's events and wants no more said about it.
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sureitsgrand · 26/10/2016 21:12
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